I thought I'd post this following the Deborah James post.
Death comes to us all!!
The old sayings of "as soon as you're born you're dying, it's just a question of when" or "the only certainty of life is death" are sad but true.
I've faced the death of both parents and a wife and it's tough. I also work in a hospice and I see it on a weekly, sometimes daily basis.
It's also a taboo subject for society, whilst we can talk about loads of subjects, the subject of our own and others deaths '(even those knowingly dying) makes us uncomfortable and we shy from it, and leave it too late.
The net result is when someone does pass, surviving relatives agonise about whether they are doing the right thing for that person. I'm sure that we have all had those throw away comments about what songs you'd like at your funeral, but would you know your partner or parents??
Do you know if they'd like songs or hymms, cremation or burial, the curtains open or closed at the end, a cross present, poems to be read, who goes in the cars (extended families please note), to be scattered ( and where!) or a headstone, flowers or donations, who they don't want at the funeral! The list is endless!!
Dying matters!! It's time to have those conversations while you can.
Death comes to us all!!
The old sayings of "as soon as you're born you're dying, it's just a question of when" or "the only certainty of life is death" are sad but true.
I've faced the death of both parents and a wife and it's tough. I also work in a hospice and I see it on a weekly, sometimes daily basis.
It's also a taboo subject for society, whilst we can talk about loads of subjects, the subject of our own and others deaths '(even those knowingly dying) makes us uncomfortable and we shy from it, and leave it too late.
The net result is when someone does pass, surviving relatives agonise about whether they are doing the right thing for that person. I'm sure that we have all had those throw away comments about what songs you'd like at your funeral, but would you know your partner or parents??
Do you know if they'd like songs or hymms, cremation or burial, the curtains open or closed at the end, a cross present, poems to be read, who goes in the cars (extended families please note), to be scattered ( and where!) or a headstone, flowers or donations, who they don't want at the funeral! The list is endless!!
Dying matters!! It's time to have those conversations while you can.
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